Marriage is beautiful. Nothing is more surreal than two hearts coming together with good intentions. Relationships can be rosy and quite rocky at the same time. What about long distance marriage?
Sometimes, you and your significant other may have worked at different places or traveled to a whole new destination. Often then not, this can be depressing and quite frustrating. There’s an old Chinese saying that says, “The pain of missing a loved one is greater than a knife’s cut.” Well, I agree with that statement.
Long distance marriage takes work and determination. It consists of a high level of commitment, honesty, and trust. But that should not distort the relationship because you are not physically together. With creative touch, you can always stay updated about each other’s lives. It would feel like nobody ever left.
There are fun and out-of-the-box ideas to always keep in touch with your spouse. Throw in some gift gestures and regular visits. Below are thirty fun ways to make your long distance marriage last long.
1. Netflix-chill apart
Yes, you heard right. No matter how far you are or where you are, you can always have a romantic movie night together. Pull out the popcorn, and enjoy. Technology is fast advancing, and some apps let you share screens with others. You can watch what the other person sees and even stream songs together.
This way, you have all the fun time chatting about movies, favorite actors, and artists. Arguing about your favorite show never seemed wrong. A pleasant way to bond!
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2. Frequent Calls
Always make sure you call each other. Check up on your significant other. FaceTime them, be all up in their business sometimes. It is cute to show affection and care. Let them know you are always there for them. Just hearing their voice can light all the sparks and make you feel happy.
3. Send Flowers
Nothing beats sending your significant other a bouquet of roses. Sending flowers has been gifting love and showing affection since the 18th century. Surprise them at their offices or homes. That smile across their faces can go a long way.
4. Play games
Yes, you can always play games together online. You can always play games on iMessage. Smack talk to each other if one loses. Claim a victory. This is a fun way to relieve stress. You wouldn’t regret it.
5. Reminders can never go wrong
Remind each other of important meetings, events, and social gatherings. Set up a reminder to send a good luck message or an optimistic message about an exam or interview. It just shows you genuinely care and you have their best interest in mind.
6. Write out your feelings
I know this sounds cliché but writing out how you feel about your partner is never wrong. Psychologists have advised long-distance couples should write out their feelings to each other. Be blunt; tell them how they make you feel. You can always write on your note app, which helps express your thoughts.
7. Spend quality time with these friends or family
Even if your significant other is absent, they would love the idea of knowing you love their loved ones too. It is a great way to build relationships.
8. Set Goals together
Distance does not limit achievements and goals. You can always set goals and keep track of them. For instance, you can put a tracker on your savings. You can also take an oath to limit alcohol intake. This is a hard one!
9. Switch favorite activities
For the fun of it, take each other’s favorite activities and give them a try. A switch never hurt anyone. If your partner loves to cook and you hate it, switch places. Get a cookbook and try out something. You might fall in love with their favorite activity too.
10. Be Honest in your long distance marriage
There’s nothing more substantial than being truthful with your partner. It goes a long way to strengthen the bond in the relationship. Everyone loves an honest person. No matter how wrong you go, speak the truth.
Nothing beats proper communication in a long-distance marriage. You can’t keep holding anger or grudges if you don’t communicate. In every relationship, efficient communication is advised. If you feel like having alone time, talk about it. Never hold in your thoughts. Loving partner and not a mind reader, people can’t read minds.
12. Never go to bed angry
I mean, this is a big no. It is one thing to have fights without a sense of physicality, but then it is another to go to bed, not on speaking terms. If you go to bed angry, you would surely wake up angrier knowing your partner hasn’t apologized or checked up on you because they’re also mad. Do not do that. Talk things out instead. It never hurt anyone.
13. Never keep malice
This is the one. Couples are so fond of this. I do not know if it is written in the lover’s handbook or something, but it needs to be scraped out! Keeping malice always aggravates issues rather than solving them. Its starts with little things like ignoring each other’s messages, totally going AWOL for no good reason, pretending the other person does not exist.
These are all terrible traits to exhibit during long-distance relationships. You both grow distant instead. Malice is insufficient energy, and a lot could be happening, which is not the safe way out. It never is and never will be. No matter how mad you are at the other person, try to talk it out. Communication is essential and makes sure it goes both ways. It should not be one-sided.
14. Appreciate Them
It is 8 am, and the sun is at its brightest. You check your phone, and you receive a text telling you how much they love having you in their lives. How much do you mean to them? Send an appreciation text today. It does not have to be lengthy or an epistle. Tell them how much they mean to you. That text could send them out of a gloomy mood.
15. Cherish the little time you get together
This cannot be over-emphasized enough. Seize the moment! Whenever you get to spend time together, take pictures, and create a scrapbook together. Please make the most of every moment so you can have something to remember them by when it’s time to cry bye again. I promise you, and it works like magic!
Go to the gym together, go for picnics and see the view. Another better idea, go bungee jumping! Thank me later. When you both are apart again, you can tease each other about your adventures.
Constantly affirm each other. Tell you are significant other you will always be by their side. Make them know you are not going anywhere. Be intentional about everything you say or do. Long-distance relationships can mess with your mind sometimes. If your partner doesn’t pick up their cell, you get all suspicious about them. This is why affirmations are meaningful.
17. Create a playlist
Nothing brings two hearts together like a song. You both can make a playlist with each of your favorite songs. It’s the little thoughts that count. You could be stuck in traffic, and then you decide to play along from your playlist. It’s like magic. You constantly think about them. It is super cool to have a special playlist.
You both can plan to attend a concert the next time to meet up. Music has a way of a vein in people together. With a shared playlist, you can always recommend songs and listen to some of their favorites too. I mean nothing beats the feeling of swiping up and receiving a message like “Hey I think you would love this song. It reminds me of you.” Such a mushy feeling.
18. Give them a surprise visit
A surprise visit is amazing. It takes your partner off guard, especially if they’re going through a difficult week. I must caution you, do not tell a soul. The fewer people, the better the surprise. A surprise visit can turn their frown upside down, I know that sounded way better in my head.
I mean walking out of your office and you are face to face with the lover you thought was miles away. An irreplaceable moment! You just want to scream. It will feel like Santa brought your gift early. It is truly a heart-melting moment.
19. Take Pictures
Take pictures! Show them where you have been, what you are about to do. A picture says a lot. You can send photos of your meal, even your pet. Super cheesy but who cares! Out with your friends? Show them how much fun you are having. Send them family photos, work outfits, and grocery lists. They might put in a few suggestions too.
20. Take Vacations
You are probably wondering, why take vacations when you’re both miles away. You didn’t let me finish, take virtual vacations! Yes, it is a thing. There are fun travel apps to explore destinations together but virtually. Booking a real one might be expensive. Plus it will be no fun without the other person.
21. Start a countdown
A countdown gets your anticipation high, your tummy gets so wobbly. Having a constant reminder of your partner’s arrival is fun engaging in it together. You can download countdown apps for free to keep track of the date. Remind each other of the big day. Bake a cake, buy a bottle of the sleekest red wine to commemorate the arrival. All these sets one in the ready mood.
22. Order your partner food
Nothing says “I love you” like food. I do not know the science behind it but I definitely know this, nothing warms the heart like food. You can use UberEats to place your orders. Order them lunch at work. You can video call them to watch them eat so they do not get lonely at their desks.
It is a great way to bond and steal a little chat time with them. Order their favorite meals. Ordering takeout can be boring. Do not forget to add in a little dessert. Everyone likes a sugar rush now and then. Add ice cream too and cupcakes with your name on them. After placing your order, never forget to add a written note. To show them you always have them in mind. Try these and watch them wish they were over the clouds with you.
23. Read books together
Another way of bonding us is through books. Start a book club together. There isn’t a rule on a two-man book club. Share your favorite reads. Create bookmarks together. This way, you always have something to talk about. You can make suggestions, criticize a book or argue about book characters. It might be difficult but it’ll be worth it for the cause of long-distance marriage.
24. Create a shared album
This is better than going through your library for photos. Create a shared album on your phones. You both can easily have access to one another’s photos. It is also a great way of safekeeping.
25. Send voice memos
You can’t see them but going for a walk with your earphones on listening to their voice is soothing. It is therapeutic, this I give you. I mean listening to your partner saying how much they love you on repeat is so pleasant. Sounds almost impossible but I can assure you, it is possible.
26. Meme wars
This is the one! Nothing crowns sending memes for meme wars. Have a laugh with a wide range of sunny memes online to knock each other out.
27. Share your daily achievement
Whether it is a promotion or you finally.got front row seats to see a movie. If it feels like a big deal, spill it. Tell them all about it.
Have a virtual sing-along with your favorite artists. This is hilarious, I promise you. Laugh at each other or even do a duet together.
29. Get matching accessory
It could be a matching watch, air-pods, or a piece of jewelry. It’s fun and cute.
Last but definitely not least. There’s a saying that says “A couple that gossip together stays together.” Okay, there is no such thing. I made it up. Feeding each other gossip about that neighbor or colleague can never get old. Give it a try!