Historically, sex can be addressed way back to biblical times. A story of Adam and Eve. Sex indicates fellowship. It explains the mystery of fellowship between two parties. For that reason, there’s something passionate and strong about engaging in sex.
Sex is a common thing at this age and time. It can be easily done with the agreement between two individuals, male and female. Nevertheless, there is definitely a distinction between “having sex” and “making love”. Borderlines exist between the engagement of sex by the mature – where sex is framed with purpose and the immature where sex is done casually for pleasure and fun.
The WHO explains that “sexual health is a state of mental, physical, and social well-being in relation to one’s sexuality and it requires a positive and respectful outlook to sexuality and sexual relationships and an ability to enjoy sexual experiences without coercion, violence, and discrimination”.
Passionate sex includes terms like the zeal of, the strong feeling of, the intense urge of, deep affections of, fervent, burning, spirited, and heartfelt sexual experiences. This term defines the (emotional) state experienced by two connected individuals during the sex process. That’s why it’s commonly called lovemaking, especially among couples. The drive for passionate sex is beyond the urge to satisfy one’s lust. This act takes place on the premise of a true emotional connection.
For this cause, intimate sex or passionate sex precludes selfishness. Majorly, selfishness negates true love. Anyways, this selfishness most times exists only when there’s an urge to satisfy one’s sexual needs. Sometimes this satisfaction is achieved by any other means possible like:
- A one-night stand.
- Paying prostitutes.
- Using toys.
- And even rape.
On the other hand, passionate sex is initially proceeded by a passionate relationship. I mean something serious. In short, professional advisers and counselors often focus more on couples. Marriage is strongly believed to be the ground on which anything passionate and true can be built. Much of what goes on among the Young folks is professionally regarded as being promiscuous due to the exuberance that’s common to the youth life. For that, selfishness isn’t uncommon in such relationships.
The sacrifice of selfish desire during passionate sex is achieved because by loving truly, the duo partners think only of pleasing the other rather than being pleased. They think of what’s going on at the moment: the pleasure and joy derived. The calmness and tenderness. The vulnerability and openness of minds. The sharing of emotions. The conversation. Most importantly, the bonding.
It’s clear that intimate moments shared by couples truly take away the consciousness of time. The partners will find it difficult to say their goodbyes to each other as they wish to prolong their romantic, intimate moments. Some musicians and singers in an attempt to describe such romantic experiences in their songs say things like “being together forever”, “never letting you go”, ” dying if you ever leave” in their songs and music. Well, we can’t say if that is possible as lovemaking isn’t the only thing life entails. It’s just one aspect of life.
Moreover, the existing vicissitudes and problems of life will have effects on your passionate relationship because every experience affects humans. Sometimes human decisions are seriously choked by circumstances, especially, when it’s overwhelming. When such trying times rise up. One’s relationship and love life are at stake, especially where maturity is lacking.
At such times this is what separates the men from the boys. A borderline exist were for different partners, true and enduring purpose is lacking in their relationship. Passion in relationships can only be rekindled from time to time when couples are committed to a purpose other than deriving pleasures for selfish benefits.
With maturity in a relationship, many positive things are plausible. Even when your partner comes back home from jobs, having a stressful day at the office or sites as the case may be. With a transformed and matured mind frame, passionate sex or intimate sex could be a tool to calm your partner’s soul.
Passionate sex is soothing, it’s relaxed and calm. It brings joy and peace. With this understanding, having a bad day or a stressful day cannot be the main reason for couples to give excuses why they don’t have passionate sex or make love. Instead, these same negative reasons and excuses will be the trigger to engage in making love more and frequently engage in intimate moments together.
Because during lovemaking or passionate sex, there are a series of events that will make you lower your guards, your social standards, and your status. You’ll feel vulnerable and become honest at this point, therefore you aren’t afraid of not having much attention or not being listened to. You are relaxed and calm and also become open-minded, therefore you can share secrets together. You can now discuss why you had a bad day; how your day at work went. You are free to cry!! Do you see that? You are free to laugh.
Now, this is your small world together. A world where you are not afraid of criticism or being mocked. This is where true bonding and connectivity take place. In the same vein, this is how you truly know who your partner is. And coitus when initiated afterward becomes an experience of pleasure that may soothe your nerve, tendering on you a wonderful relief from previous experience of pain. Sometimes, only the foreplay engagement alone can efficiently do the job of wiping your tears and easing your pains.
The passionate sexual experience
For this aim of top bonding and fellowship to be achieved during passionate sex. Certain events must become your experience in the process. Passionate sex isn’t just coitus, but coitus is involved. To make it worthwhile, things need to be done and time needs to be spent as well. Therefore, the narratives of particular sexual events are given thus:
The foreplay should be the period where love expression begins between couples. Spouses shouldn’t consider these moments lightly. Earnest commitments should be put into the foreplay moments to bring the best out of such times. Intimacy should begin warmly and gently. Your spouse could just have returned from a stressful day at work, therefore things should begin slowly and gently yet passionately and enthusiastically. This will put the duo into a disposition where they are mentally and psychologically ready for deeper and more profound sexual experiences.
During the foreplay, one should learn to spend time springing things up. Women especially need time and some patience. They are not psychologically wired like men. A man at times could go straight to coitus for stress relief. For women, the role of foreplay can’t be downplayed. The ladies need time to warm up.
Excess affections must be expressed prior to the actual intercourse. Nonetheless, men and women need affections. This showing of affections shouldn’t just begin a few minutes before sex initiation. If possible foreplay should start in the morning before leaving for work. Too many kisses and hugs should be initiated before leaving the house to the workplace.
Couples must have had good moments of exchanging affirmative words; could be appreciating your wife’s breakfast, your husband’s lovely behavior, partner’s outfit, beauty, and handsomeness. The list is long as there are many affirmative things to say to each other.
More so, at the workplace partners should learn to call each other to know how the day’s going. One of them might need some kind of help or advice. This shows passion and love. It means you are passionate about your spouse.
On returning home, you should hug and kiss your spouse for a long period of time, allowing the sensual feelings to take deeper root in their heart and soul. This will make your spouse relax.
In bed, couples should engage in a number of things before coitus. There has to be a passionate and profound display of:
- The intertwining of legs etc.
Look them in the eyes and say things that come with strong feelings of love and passion. Things like:
- “I’m lucky I met you”
- “I’m desperate for you”
- “I’d really like to kiss you right now. How do you feel about that?”
- “I’ve been thinking about kissing you. Do you ever think about kissing me?”
- “Do you want to make out?”
In addition, it’s very important for couples to get dirty. I mean, if you are not crazy about her/him, then who in world would you be?
Couples should engage seriously in sex chats or “dirty” chats as it’s generally called. Say things about your partner’s body: shape, texture, genitals, and private areas. Give excess compliments. These trenches of experiences are actually what defines passionate sex. It means you not just after the penetration but the deeper connection and intimacy; the bond. This isn’t a one-night stand experience.
What actually should lead to the intercourse should be the foreplay experience. The foreplay is supposed to bring the duo into a sex mind frame.
At this point, intercourse comes by easily and is even more pleasurable. Also, by now, you might have learned: what turns your partner on. What they find romantic. Know their intimate desires. And should have touched the different parts of their body.
During intercourse, seeking your partner’s consent is really necessary. You have to know if they like it rough or prefer a slow and steady thrust. Could be your spouse like fingering, handjob, oral sex, various sex styles, and positions. You don’t have to be slavish or be a sex slave, but things can be worked out between both of you; an agreement can be made.
To elicit hotness in the bedroom, try out wearing lingerie and skin-tight materials for a heightened sexual experience an outburst of hormones. The atmosphere can be kept cool with a dim light in the room and a slow soft song playing in the background.
To achieve great sex, experts say that the G-spot stimulation works well when you make use of your hand (clitoris especially). They claim the best way to hit her G-spot is by putting your hands on her hip and pulling forward her each and every time you thrust forward. Also, you can place a pillow, and lay her hip on the pillow while thrusting.
Whatever the case, go crazy with your spouse. If possible, try out different, favorable sex positions to attain great pleasure and satisfaction.
This moment isn’t an overly serious one. Exchange words while having sex. Smile and laugh. In short, tempting questions could be asked at this point to get certain answers. Secrets could be shared. The intercourse is supposed to reinforce the passionate connection between the duo.
This whole experience sums up a deep and passionate sexual experience. It entails things like:
- Intense gazing or eye contact during intercourse.
- Excess and deep kissing and hugging before, during, and after sex.
- Affectionate and gently touching and caressing.
- Being held close during and after sex
- Exchanging romantic phrases before, during, and after sex
Finally, even after sex, your partner cuddles with you afterward rather than withdrawing from you or falling asleep immediately.
Benefits and health effects of passionate sex
- Boost self-confidence. Knowing you are accepted and not rejected, alone gives you peace in your relationship.
- Increase libido. In women having sex increases vaginal lubrication, blood flow, and elasticity.
- Boost the immune system. The research found out that regular sex boosts the immune system, therefore sexually active individuals have a higher level of defense from germs and sickness.
- Aids heart condition, thereby lowering the risk of cardiac diseases. Good sex keeps estrogen and testosterone levels in balance. This balance helps get rid of heart conditions like heart attacks.
- Lowers blood pressure. Good and passionate sex lowers systolic pressure.
- Balance in estrogen and testosterone removes the risk of osteoporosis.
- Good and passionate sex reduces pain. Orgasm as the case may be can block the pain pathway.
- It relieves stress. Soothes fear and anxiety. Hugging, kissing, in short, the foreplay role has the efficiency of enhancing stress and worries.
- Good sex induces good sleep. “After orgasm, the hormone prolactin is released, which is responsible for the feelings of relaxation and sleepiness,” says an expert.
Sexual experience among couples is not something that’s done in surfaced like fashion. The connection is deep, it really and true, it’s passionate and fervent. Consequentially, couples shouldn’t rush sex. Time must be taken. However, for the relief pressure or sex tension, a little foreplay and showering of love and affections will do. This maintains the bonds. It reinforces intimacy and emotional connectivity. For this course, passionate sex entails more than coitus.